Not the most common question you expect someone to ask, huh?
If I ask, “How are you doing?” Which would you say?
“I’m good.”
“I’m fine.”
“I’m ok.”
Yep, this is what I call Perception! It’s what you want people to believe about you to avoid feeling judged for how you really feel, or what your’re going through. As a result, your responses become lies you tell yourself to normalize the people or things in your life that make you unhappy.
Because I said the same thing when my Reality wasn’t close to being good, fine, or ok! In fact, I was in financial struggles, family drama, insecurity within myself and my marriage, draining friendships, and a job I-did-not-like.
My goal as your Coach is to help you #checkyourBS to be open and honest about how you feel and what you can do to change what you don’t like. Asking if you’ve had enough water or enough sleep is a self-awareness strategy to help you speak your Truth. It’s also a simple question to hold you accountable and help you be intentional about making yourself a priority.
I’m exicted about helping you hold yourself accountable for maintaing a healthy relationship with yourself!
~Coach Shaquan
I believe you get married despite that thing that bothers you about your future spouse because you think they will change, you can change them, or you can deal with it.
I was the latter, and after 8-years of dealing with it, I was tired.
I told my husband we were headed toward a disaster that would keep us unhappily married, or lead to separation, and he agreed. While the thought of divorce hadn’t crossed our minds, my husband and I were emotionally detached, going through the motions, and functioning within the dysfunction of our marriage. Our finances were horrible. Sex, intimacy, and romance had declined. Our laughs, kisses and quality time were far and few. And even though our strength was communication, the problems we were experiencing were rarely discussed.
Personally, I was shameful about my weight, overwhelmed with motherhood, and stressed at work.
I felt lost and embarrassed about where I was in life. Often I was regretful about the choices I had made and unforgiving of my husband for what I believed he contributed to me being unfulfilled. Still, I placed him, our kids, and everyone else before me, which made me feel resentful and jealous when they seemed happier than me.
Then, one day I looked in the mirror and asked myself, “how did I get here”? How did I become his wife, their mom and working a job a did not like?
Why was I feeling undervalued and unappreciated in almost every area of my life? Why did people see me as having it all together, when inside I was falling apart? How much longer could I fake happiness and keep ignoring what I didn’t like about myself, my marriage and my life?
I’d always had a passion for helping people in relationships and marriage, and after I stumbled upon this thing called Life Coaching, I knew it was a good fit. After a full year of excuses and being afraid of the unknown, I took a leap of faith and invested $10,000 of money I did NOT have to enroll in a certified coaching program. Three months later, I unexpectedly parted ways with my job after 13-years of dedicated service and founded PRT Coaching Services.
Since 2013, I’ve been living my dreams in real life and being the type of woman, wife, and mother I desire to be. Self-awareness saved me from being a victim to my own circumstance, and I am grateful for the transformation I’ve gone through. I begin each day in prayer asking to show up the most authentic to who God created me to be so that I say something, or do something that draws someone closer to Him. My hope is that through my transparancy you will find hope beause one of the greatest lesson’s I’ve learned is this:
You work on you, let them work on them, and watch God work on it.
I will teach you how to use self-awareness to connect with the Truth of who you are by asking straight up, no chaser type of questions to challenge your BS (that’s belief system…or whatever has you stuck).
I also listen for what you don’t say within what you do say to open your perspective and give you clarity on the difference between what you believe, what you say, and what you do.
Since life is all about relationships, how you communicate, connect and behave with others is a direct reflection of how others experience you. This is why it’s important to be clear on how you show up and honor the Truth of who you are. If the way you are communicating in your marriage or relationship no longer gives you the best outcome, it’s time to check your BS and do something different.
Check Your BS is transformational coaching to challenge what you believe to be Truth about yourself and others. Using Perception-Reality-Truth©, a concept and curriculum developed to focus on 7 key areas of self-awareness: Energy, Trust, Loyalty, Boundaries, Support, Forgiveness and Compassion, I use a unique combination of worksheets, assessments and thought-provoking questions to open your mindset to new perspectives and interrupt patterns of thinking that don’t work for you or your relationships. Learn more here.
My process involves change and will shift your mindset to win-win solutions that work best for your team. I offer a mix of sessions; one-on-one, to focus on showing up authentically, and group to apply what you’ve learned. The goal is to create the vision, develop a plan and hold yourself accountable to step out of your ego and learn how to build connection, restore intimacy and create the peace you want.
Do you have challenges showing up authentically in your marriage or relationship?
Let’s get to the source of what is holding you back. I will teach you how to show up authentically to reflect the Truth of who you are and get clear on what you want in your marriage or relationship. You’ll also learn 7 key areas to honor your values and create your own set of non-negotiable rules to be the best for you and your spouse.
Is your spouse on the fence about working with a professional?
No worries. This is about you getting what you want. You and I can work on happily ever after, or an exit plan. It’s your choice.
Do you think saying, “I do” is a solution for your relationship challenges?
Before you ignore your Truth, think it will fix itself or believe it will change…we should talk. I work with couples who believe in the value of planning their marriage over planning their wedding.
Do you want to get to know YOU better?
It’s tough to be on a self-awareness journey without directions. Truth is, you don’t have to figure it out on your own. I will show you how to overcome your fears of judgment and rejection, and teach you how to be more appreciated, respected and loved!
A few other honorable mentions…
1. I am Shaquan Grove, founder and executive director of PRT Coaching Services, LLC. Established in 2013, we are a life and relationship expert firm focused on self-awareness strategies and mindset tools to help you eliminate the false Perceptions of your life, expose the Reality of who you are, and teach you how to embrace, own and live your Truth. Our services included certified coaching, leadership workshops, and professional speaking.
2. I’m referred to as Coach Shaquan because I have completed the required hours of training as stated by the International Coaching Federation to be acknowledged as a Certified Professional Coach and Energy Leadership Expert. My certification was earned through iPEC Coaching.
3. As a relationship expert, I study how people communicate, connect and behave in personal and professional relationships. My passion for healthy relationships and desire for my clients to be leaders in the life they choose to live is why I serve as a Certified Relationship Coach.
I’m good at what I do, and you will be in good hands!
Experience the Power of PRT in Your Life and Relationships! The goal is to challenge what you believe to be Truth about yourself and others to help elevate your thinking, shift your mindset, and discover new perspectives on how you can better communicate, connect and behave in your personal and professional relationships.
